More Than Mom: The Link Between Identity & Mental Health with Dr. Nichelle Haynes

Motherhood changes everything, including how we see ourselves. But what happens when the role of “mom” starts to crowd out every other part of who you are? In this episode, Emily sits down with Dr. Nichelle Haynes, a perinatal psychiatrist, podcast host, and mom of two, to explore the connection between identity and mental health in motherhood. Together, they unpack why so many moms feel disconnected from themselves, how biology and society both play a role, and why reclaiming your identity is not selfish, but essential.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level self-care. Dr. Haynes explains how values, alignment, and intentional living can reduce guilt, ease anxiety, and help moms feel more grounded in their lives. They also discuss matrescence, the emotional labor of motherhood, and why “doing nothing” is sometimes exactly what your nervous system needs.

The episode explores:

• Why identity shifts are a normal part of motherhood
• The biological link between hormones, identity, and mental health
• How societal expectations contribute to burnout and overwhelm
• Letting go of guilt and redefining what matters to you
• Why supporting yourself supports your children too
• What it really means to be more than a mom

If you have ever felt like you lost yourself after becoming a mom, this episode will help you feel seen and offer a new way to think about who you are becoming.

🔗 Connect with Dr. Nichelle Haynes:

Instagram: @dr.nichellehaynes
Website: www.drnichellehaynes.com
Clinic Website: www.rpcaustin.com

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